35 years of marriage

June 5, 1982 these 2 young kids said “I do” and today they say, “I still do.”  35 years later they still choose each other.  


What an amazing accomplishment! As soon of my married friends know, marriage life ain’t always rainbows and unicorns.  It’s hard work.  And my parents marriage is not perfect and they have had their own struggles.  But I love their relationship today.  I love that my dad still sends her flowers, just because.  I love that he takes her on dates.  I love that he takes her shopping because he wants her to always look her best.  I love that he comes behind her and grabs her and tells her that she’s beautiful and other yucky rated R stuff.  I love that she takes care of him.  She makes breakfast, lunch and dinner for him.  She calls him to tell him she loves him.  I love that she grabs his hand while they are in the car.  


Throughout the years I have learned so much from my parents marriage.  Some things I have applied in my own marriage.  I am so grateful for my parents and the wonderful & Godly example they have been to me, my marriage and family.  

Mom & Dad, Happy Anniversary!! I pray that God will bless you another 35 years and that your later years will be better than your former years! That God will grant all of your hearts desires and that He will open crazy doors for you, your marriage and ministry.  (but secretly I pray that a door would be open in Dallas, TX). Love you both to the moon and back!!

One down, a lifetime to go!


365 days ago, I said yes to my best friend. I still find it strange sometimes that we are married. Our journey started in the fall of 2001. Not many people you know have had a 14 year engagement right? Well us either haha. But although our road hasn’t been as easy one, in fact pretty darn difficult if I must be honest. I wouldn’t change one minute of it. 

I absolutely love the man that Courtney is today. I love all of his annoying habits. For instance, the fact that he doesn’t dry his hands after rinsing them or the fact that he can live all day, very happily actually without stressing whether or not the bed is made. I love all of his great qualities too. The ones that most people don’t see in him. The ones that even he doesn’t realize that he carries. 

I envisioned a blog of “Do’s & Don’t Do’s” in the first year of marriage but who am I kidding, we have no clue what we are doing. We have no idea if we are doing anything right or if we have it all wrong. Not too mention this first year of marriage for us hasn’t exactly been honeymoon bliss. For instance, the first 2 months in fact I had bronchitits and he slept on the couch because my snoring was horrendous.  He also had a job for the majority of the year that demanded him to work 100+ hours a week so we rarely saw each other. 

However, we have managed to learn a couple of things along the way.  First, we learned to not compare our marriage to our friends marriages. Every marriage is different. And what may work for our friends, doesn’t work for us.  We’ve also used the word “intentional” quite often this year.  It’s so easy to get so busy with the duties of life, work, children that you forget that your spouse needs attention.  Although we would love to have more time with each other, we strive to be intentional with the time that we do have for one another. 

Also, we’ve learned that every day that we wake up to each other, we make a decision to love one another and to make this thing work. We choose each other every single day.  And I’m looking forward to a lifetime with him! 

Happy Anniversary babe! xoxo

Photo credits: Meshali Mitchell 

Hampton Party of 4

For TEN years, Caleb has been an only child.  He has played alone, tried to use his imagination as much as possible, sat in many “girl” talks and honestly, has had all the attention on him, all the time.

But for several years now he has been dreaming of a brother or sister.  And when Courtney and I started talking marriage, the planning and praying began.

After just 6 months of trying, while battling PCOS (I’ll talk about that a little more later) we are pregnant!!

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We are so stinking excited and even more so, thankful to God for the little growing miracle!  Stay tuned for more preggo updates!  ❤

Unmerited Favor

Last night during our First Wednesday service, Bishop Tony Miller was speaking on the difference between Mercy & Grace. A lot of Christians confuse the two and think they are one in the same. But on the contrary they are completely different.

Mercy. Bishop Miller compared Gods mercy to a judicial court. When you have committed a crime, you go to the court asking for mercy. Why? Because you know that you are guilty but you want the judge, court to have mercy on you & your punishment. However, God is so good, that He tells us that we are not guilty even before we have committed the crime! Lamentations 3:3 says that He gives us new mercies every morning. God knew that before we would even wake up and make it to the bathroom we weren’t going to get everything just right. So God had goodness & mercy waiting for you every single morning.  I don’t know about you but that is good news!!

Grace. Mercy says I’m not going to get what I deserve. Grace says I’m going to give you far more than you ever deserve. Grace is unmerited, undeserving, unworthy favor. Grace is when you get a job not because you deserve it, or have the qualifications for it but simply because God says so. Grace is when you get that house not because you qualified for it or had the down payment for it but because God said it was yours! His Grace was and is sufficient enough!

As Bishop Miller was talking about the two, I received this picture from our lovely photographer, Meshali Mitchell.

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This picture is worth a million bucks. And means the world to me. She couldn’t have sent it to me at a more perfect time. What a sweet, sweet reminder of Gods Mercy & Grace.

Mercy, because if you only knew half of what Courtney and I have been through. Hell & back I tell you. In fact, till this day we are still having to pay for some of those actions that we made some years ago. Many actions that we are not proud of. But they were our decisions. So thank God for His mercy that He has over our lives!

Grace, because we found love again in each other. We were joined together as a family. And then to see our son so happy on this special day. We don’t deserve him! We aren’t the best parents, and half the time we don’t know what we are doing! We did nothing to deserve such a wonderful, remarkable, smart, loving, caring little boy. But He chose us as his parents. And that is unmerited favor.

Thank you for the sweet reminder Meshali. May you always, always be highly favored with Gods goodness!

Special Announcement

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I am so happy to announce that Courtney & I are FINALLY tying the knot! And yes, I said finally.  For those of you that are tuning in for the first time or don’t know all of our love story, well stick around because boy do I have a book for you! 🙂

Last Christmas, my family and I were sitting around the table and I’m not sure if anyone else’s family is like mine but lets just say we don’t exactly sing Christmas carols, drink egg nog while enjoying everyones company.  Quite the exact opposite actually.  It’s always a discussion of who is going where, what are we eating, what time are we eating, I don’t want to go there, they don’t want to come here.  So as we were summarizing the days events, I asked my parents how they felt about starting a new tradition.   Instead of wasting money on gifts that no one likes and ends up repackaging next year, let’s go on a family vacation Christmas week instead.  I would much rather make memories with my family then blow my money on something they don’t ever wear or even like for that matter.

So it was agreed upon that Christmas 2015 we would spend Christmas in New York!

Well Courtney and I had been talking about getting married and what we envisioned for our special day.  We both agreed that we didn’t want anything too big but we agreed that we wanted it to be special.  So one day, as we were talking about New York I turned and looked at him and said, let’s get married in New York!  And his eyes lit up like a Christmas tree.  Needless to say, we didn’t have to discuss further.  It was set.

Now, for those of you who don’t really know our history, (which I’ll get to that another day) I had told Courtney that a proposal and a ring was not important to me. An engagement was not important to me.  The whole hoopla before the wedding is not important.  In fact, the wedding is not important.  What is important to me was that we were married, our marriage would be centered around Christ, that we were both ready and that this time around we would do it in a way that God would be honored most importantly.

Well it was Monday July 6th and my parents had just left town and I was really disappointed because I thought Courtney hadn’t spoken with my dad & mom about “us”.  So I was out running errands and Courtney was at my house with Caleb.  I got home and went to my room and Caleb & Courtney walked in.  He asked Caleb & I to have a seat so we did.  He got down on his knees and he began to tell us that loved us so much, and that He wanted us to be a family, officially.  He asked me to marry him.  And I remember turning and looking at Caleb.  And the look that he had on his face was priceless.  That moment was priceless.

So there you have it.  We are officially going to be a family.  We will be having a small ceremony in New York City on December 21.  Once we are back in Texas and the weather clears up, we will have a big party for all of our friends and family.  We are so excited to begin this new chapter in our lives and we want to thank all of you who have prayed and encouraged us.  We love you. xoxo

Check out our wedding website for more details on our special day,

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