Mother to only a dream


When I moved up to Dallas 7 years ago I knew my life would be very different. I was very close with all of my family and would spend every Sunday with them, every holiday would be spent with both sides of the family. It was great. Then I moved to Dallas, weekends and holidays looked very different. I remember one Mother’s Day, I went to church, then went back to my apartment made a sandwich and spent it feeling very lonely.  

I read an article yesterday that my friend shared and you can read it here. This article made me think back to that particular Sunday. Caleb was with my parents at that time and although I was a mother, that Sunday I had no one to celebrate with.  

Over the years I have made so many wonderful friends. Some that I would now consider family. I love them dearly. And over the years I have shared good times, bad times, achievements and personal struggles that they walk through. And one of them particularly is Mother’s Day.  

For my single friends, Valentines Day is labeled “Single Awareness” for those that are “relationally challenged”. And for most single people, Valentine’s Day is not a huge deal. Ok great, we don’t have a significant other. Who cares. But there are a few that are reminded on this day that they have no one to share this with. No one to remind them how loved & special they are. Because let’s face the facts, everyone needs to be reminded of that. Married or Single. 

Then there are other holidays, Thanksgiving, Christmas. Yet another reminder that while married folks spend holidays split between different sides of the family, those that are “relationally challenged” spend it either alone or with their parents.  

But then there is Mother’s Day. The dreaded reminder that not only are they not married, but they are not a mother. A mother to only a dream. A dream that with every passing year, seems less and less likely in the realm of reality.  

I know that I am not single. I’m married and have two children which by the way are freaking phenomenal. And I really have no right to write this post. But my heart hurts for my friends. I know that there is a burning desire for being loved, feeling special, carrying the title ‘wife’ and ‘mom’.  

I know that anything I say will just be dumb. Because I don’t get it. I don’t fully understand their pain and struggle.  

But sweet friends, I want you to know that you are incredibly loved. You are uniquely special. You are worthy of all of those desires you carry. Please don’t let your dreams die because time doesn’t seem to be on your side. You have to remember who God is. He is the author of time. He is the master creator. He’s love for you is so deep and so wide. He is working out every single detail of your life. I know that without a shadow of doubt, He will grant every single one of your desires. And I truly cannot wait to celebrate with you.  

I hope you know how much I love and pray for you, your spouse and your children! 

xoxo

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“Don’t reason away your faith.”


I love this quote by Christine Cane. I needed to be reminded of this this week, yes I know today is only Tuesday but it’s been one of those weeks already.

There are many days when I question what I’m doing. Or what God has planned for my life. It may be one of my bad mom moments and I began to think, am I really cut out for this? Or why on earth did you trust me enough with these beautiful babies? 

I love reminding myself of 2 Corinthians 5:7: Walk by faith not by sight.  

The message versions says 
“That’s why we live with such good cheer. You won’t see us drooping our heads or dragging our feet! Cramped conditions here don’t get us down. They only remind us of the spacious living conditions ahead. It’s what we trust in but don’t yet see that keeps us going. Do you suppose a few ruts in the road or rocks in the path are going to stop us? When the time comes, we’ll be plenty ready to exchange exile for homecoming.” ‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭5:6-8‬ ‭MSG‬‬

 
There are many days where I come across a few ruts or several. But I am so thankful that my future, who I am as a woman, friend, wife and mother is not determined by my circumstances or past failures. He has equipped me with everything that I could ever possibly need.  
There is no need to question yourself or God for that matter. There is no reason to rehash or go through the what ifs and what nots in life.  All it does is lead you down a road of frustration, anger, depression and discouragement. Put all of your fear, anxiety, frustration in Him.  Trust that the creator of the entire universe, knows what He is doing.  

Don’t reason away your faith today.  
xoxo