365 days ago, I said yes to my best friend. I still find it strange sometimes that we are married. Our journey started in the fall of 2001. Not many people you know have had a 14 year engagement right? Well us either haha. But although our road hasn’t been as easy one, in fact pretty darn difficult if I must be honest. I wouldn’t change one minute of it.
I absolutely love the man that Courtney is today. I love all of his annoying habits. For instance, the fact that he doesn’t dry his hands after rinsing them or the fact that he can live all day, very happily actually without stressing whether or not the bed is made. I love all of his great qualities too. The ones that most people don’t see in him. The ones that even he doesn’t realize that he carries.
I envisioned a blog of “Do’s & Don’t Do’s” in the first year of marriage but who am I kidding, we have no clue what we are doing. We have no idea if we are doing anything right or if we have it all wrong. Not too mention this first year of marriage for us hasn’t exactly been honeymoon bliss. For instance, the first 2 months in fact I had bronchitits and he slept on the couch because my snoring was horrendous. He also had a job for the majority of the year that demanded him to work 100+ hours a week so we rarely saw each other.
However, we have managed to learn a couple of things along the way. First, we learned to not compare our marriage to our friends marriages. Every marriage is different. And what may work for our friends, doesn’t work for us. We’ve also used the word “intentional” quite often this year. It’s so easy to get so busy with the duties of life, work, children that you forget that your spouse needs attention. Although we would love to have more time with each other, we strive to be intentional with the time that we do have for one another.
Also, we’ve learned that every day that we wake up to each other, we make a decision to love one another and to make this thing work. We choose each other every single day. And I’m looking forward to a lifetime with him!
Happy Anniversary babe! xoxo
Photo credits: Meshali Mitchell